Monday, February 8, 2010

How Important IS your First Dance?

Your wedding day is the most important milestone in your life. When a couple commits to share their lives and their love together forever. It's truly a wonderful thing.


One of the best things the couple shares on their first day as man and wife is their first dance. The first dance is symbolic of the couple starting their new life together as one. The first dance is something they will remember for the rest of their lives.  Learning to dance together teaches the couple to work together, it exposes their weakness and strengths to each other. They must learn to face challenges together in learning new patterns and dance technique together. They will face frustrations as well as discover triumphs together. In the end, they will learn to connect on a much deeper and more intimate level as well as share a new and fun activity that gives them both a sense of trust and accomplishment with themselves and each other. It is a truly unique endeavor and one that is worthwhile of any and all married couples. With dancing together, you learn to share and to trust, while still having fun, enjoying each other's company, and being active together. Very few activities the couple will undertake will be as interactive or as intimate as dancing together, and very few activities will be as enjoyable for both the husband and wife.
In preparing for their first dance, thinking about it early is always best, whether or not the couple has danced together before, the first dance holds a special place in the events of their wedding day and it's best to prepare early so that that the dance is as enjoyable and memorable as possible. Three to six months is typical for preparing for the first dance, assuming you want to devote a little bit of time each week over a longer period. Spending an intense couple of weeks while finishing up last preparations for your wedding is usually not the best approach for a stress-free wedding day, though the dance lessons may be a necessary stree-reliever in the last days before the wedding. It's best to schedule at least one lesson each week with your dance instructor, two if you're ambitious, but you'll want to have time to practice in between lessons. Talk to your instructor about finding the best solution for your schedule as well as your personal goals for your first dance.
It's important to pick a song you both love and many couple's already have a special song that they share. Many more, however, are at a loss when it comes to what song they will want to share their first dance to. You will want to listen to several different songs. Plus, your dance instructor will have several recommendations, or can help you either find something that's popular, or help you find something a little more obscure and unique, that will help make your first dance both fun and memorable. Some people pick a song by the style of dance they would like to do at their wedding reception, and certainly your instructor can help you with that as well. Traditionally, the first dance is also known as the 'Bridal Waltz', however especially in recent years, the couple typically doesn't dance a waltz, since most couples tend to select a ballad or love song that is not a waltz to dance to. Your dance instructor will be the best source for answers in selecting a song for your wedding dance.

When learning to dance, you'll learn things that are purely choreography and steps and patterns that are considered social dancing. Remember the difference, because social dance moves are things that you can use impromptu on any dance floor to other songs and even with other partners; choreography is something that both you and your partner have memorized and have predetermined will happen and you more or less just perform together. Social dancing is anything that can be led/followed on the fly during any dance at the leader's discretion. Remember that the social dancing you learn will be the most value because these are things you can carry with you into other dances, other dance styles, and that you can continue to expand upon with your partner so that your dance continues to evolve throughout your lives together.

For information on where you can learn how to dance for your first dance to enjoy making the most of your wedding day, please visit www.1stDance.us, or for continuing to learn dancing beyond what you learned for your own first dance, please visit First Dance Fabulous for information on private dance instruction, ballroom dance lessons, group classes, dance parties, and other dance opportunities. Plus, you will be able to register for dance events and workshops as well as purchase dance videos to learn more about dancing in the comfort of your own home!

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